You're Having Twins! A Guide to Twin Pregnancy

What to expect when you find out you're expecting twins.

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You've received the surprise of your life. "You're having twins!" (or more!) Suddenly your pregnancy is filled with double delight, and probably a double dose of anxiety also. You've just discovered you're expecting multiples, and life as you know it will never be the same. If you've just found out you're having twins, here's what you need to do next. 

Now What?

Your mind is whirring with questions.

How did this happen? What if I deliver early? How will I tell them apart? Do we need another crib, carseat, or a bigger car? Maybe even a bigger house? How will we ever afford college times two? Argh! Don't worry, you will find the answers to all of these questions and more. 


Take a deep breath. It's time to consult with the experts -- parents of multiples who have been through this same situation and lived to tell the tale. Talking to other families will reassure your fears and convince you that life with multiples is actually fun! While your body prepares your babies for birth, advice from other mothers and fathers will help you prepare your heart and your home.

With multiple birth on the rise, chances are you know someone with twins or triplets. Get in touch with them and share your exciting news. They'll be thrilled that you've been doubly blessed, and more than likely will be happy to provide some advice.

But if you don't know anyone offhand, here are other ways to connect with parents and establish a support network:

  • Get connected online! If you'd prefer to confer from the comfort of your keyboard, seek out online communities for parents of multiples. Here on this site, you'll find a vibrant and welcoming group of parents on my Facebook page. Don't be shy; jump right in with any questions or concerns. You're sure to receive a supportive response.

Read up!

Several excellent books are available, many written by parents of multiples. Everything Twins, Triplets and More (Buy at is a good one to start with. It's the book I would have wanted to read when I found out I was having twins -- and it's the one that I wrote! There are plenty of other books on the market as well. Find advice and information from celebrity moms like Jane Seymour or breastfeeding advocate Karen Kerkhoff Gromada. You'll also find personal stories from parents in Twins Magazine, available on newstands or by subscription. The more you know about the marvels of multiples, the more prepared you'll be for the challenges you'll encounter along the way.

Get Answers

You probably have lots of questions about having twins. How will I know who's who? Can I breastfeed twins? Will I have to go on bedrest? Get answers to some of the most commonly asked questions about twin/multiple pregnancy here: Twin Pregnancy FAQ

Keeping Perspective

Finally, a multiple pregnancy can be subject to more severe medical complications than a single pregnancy, and you may be alarmed to find yourself categorized as high risk. While there is reason for caution, there's no cause for panic.

As you talk to fellow parents of multiples, ask them about their experience. You might hear a few frightening stories of preterm labor and extended hospitalization, but you'll also be reassured that many mothers deliver healthy full-term babies without any problems at all. The majority of multiple pregnancies do have a happy ending; even worst case scenarios can be remedied by the miracles of modern medicine.

Good luck! Your journey is just beginning. There will be moments of fear, frustration and fatigue, but also much joy, amazement and love. Welcome to the wonderful world of multiples.

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